“We all think we’re going to be great. And we feel a little bit robbed when our expectations aren’t met. But sometimes, our expectations sell us short. Sometimes the expected simply pales in comparison to the unexpected. You gotta wonder why we cling to our expectations, because the expected is just what keeps us steady, standing, still. The expected is just the beginning. The unexpected is what changes our lives.”
The year was 2014. The setting was an airplain. I made my way back home from one of my fashion trips. The guy who set next to me asked me if I felt like watching a Greys anatomy episode with him on his laptop. I really didn’t expext it to happen, we were on the flight for 2 hours, and we didn’t even share a word between us. I stared at him for a minute or two and then said “Yalla, why the hell not?”
By the end of the episode when Grey started this quote, I was completely alert and focused, hoping it would end with an optimistic note, as I really needed someone to tell me that the best is yet to come. It wasn’t that my life was bad or I was struggling too much, It was just that feeling that I needed to know there was more for me. Greater love, bigger projects, better relations with my family, feeling less anxious, looking beyond the imperfections. A reminder… that the best is yet to come, that the journey only just begun.
Almost two years passed, and I didn’t think about this quote again, until, a week ago. I had lunch with one of my best friends, over a light and bubbly conversation about our weekend and fun times. Then when the conversation turned a bit more serious, she challenged me to be honest and answer if I believed that I live my life in the right way, if I’m happy with my decisions and whether those decisions will lead me to where I want to be.
I didn’t know the absolute answer, I couldn’t say for sure that I know what I’m doing in addition to finding myself in the future, in a place without regrets.
How can you possibly know?
I told her that I don’t know if I won’t regret some things in the future, probably I will, but I do know that I’m dedicated to my journey, and even more, I enjoy the voyage.
I believe that this journey will change, it will transform and so will I, but through this journey I wish for myself to be honest, live fully and grow, But above all I wish myself to be bold. Bold enough to use my voice, to listen to my heart, live my dreams and trade my expectations for explorations.
This Blog is actually a part of being bold for me, to do what I love and do it the best I can. But you should all know, it wouldn’t have happen without all of you, and that’s why on a personal note I want to thank you for following, for coming here often and for reminding me that the doors will be opened to those who are bold enough to knock.
I’m not sure why things always happen when they’re happening, or why some doors open while others shut in your face, but I try to keep in mind that is all in preparation for what is to come.
I’m wishing you the best year ahead and know that you don’t need a new year to make a change, a new opportunity will knock when you will decide you are ready, and if it doesn’t, build a door.
Now let’s have a toast (seriously! go bring a glass) for you, and for you having an unexpected, bold and happy 2016! Love you all, Salute!
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